business post week 2

I have a niece that just turned 1 year old last week. They had a birthday party for her and of course she received a ton of presents. Most of the gifts she got were plenty of girly stuff and girly colors such as pink and purple. Her mother(my sis in law) seems to think that she cant wear any color unless it is a color that is feminine. She has big blue eyes and I think she would look adorable in light blue. My sister in law refuses to buy her anything that is blue because she thinks it is for boys. There is a also a two year old boy, my nephew, and because he wears blue she thinks that her daughter shouldn't wear blue. They were saying that she needs clothes because she grew out of most of her stuff. When I went shopping for her I bought her a bunch of clothes and i picked out blue and green and even gray stuff. I knew my sis in law would be like uhhh because she wouldnt pick these colors out on her own but if someone gave them to her than its free clothes so she will end up using them eventually. I know it's mean but i am sick and tired of seeing my niece overdone in pink flowery stuff. She looks super cute in less feminine colors and doesn't look like a boy at all. I also got her this little baby handbag that has a brush and comb in it with a little mirror. I was at my brothers house after her party and her family was there too. My nephew who is two picked up the handbag that I got for her and was walking around with it and taking out the brush and doing his hair in the mirror. He is all into everyone's bags and he likes to carry them around..especially handbags. My sis in laws father saw him holding the baby girls handbag and he was like ahh what are you doing?? Thats a girl toy, put that down you don't play with that kind of stuff. He took the bag away from him and he then started crying. He told my brother you better watch out your son is holding a pocketbook that is pink..what is that about.? Then he told him stop crying you're a boy whats wrong with you... go play your football game and be a man. I was pretty annoyed by this whole scene. Who cares if he wants to hold a handbag..it's just a stupid bag...whats the big deal. They were like so shocked like oh my god the boy is holding a girls purse like god forbid that means he is not going to grow up manly. And then when he said something about boys not crying ..I said to him cry all you want boys can cry too whenever they are upset. If the baby girl cries no one ever tells her dont cry so no one should tell him not to cry just because he is a male. I personally have no problem with what colors either of them wear or if he wants to play with her toys then whatever, knock yourself out. Whenever I babysit him I never tell him that he cant play with her boys, nor do I push him into playing with "boy" stuff. I would rather my nephew grow up to be sensitive and caring then some big macho tough guy. I think it is for his benefit in the future and with his relationships with others to be sensitive. I do not think this makes him less manly, I think it even makes him a better man because if you ask me a real man is one who is not afraid to show his feelings and can show vulnerability when he needs to. To me that is more respected, and makes a person have real character.