reply to Tom week 4

Tom,
I think i would probably react pretty similarly to some of your female friends, but it would be due to what experience I have had with guys and relationships in the past. From what I have seen in the past and from my guy friends and their relationships, it is pretty unusual for a guy to buy a girl something that nice so soon in the relationship. I guess it is somewhat stereotypical but I think i would have probably said the same thing to you..that its kind of a big deal to buy her that bracelet and she would probably think that you were really really into her and planned on sticking around for good while. If you bought it for her with no intention of a message of any kind or any meaning, just to be a nice guy and buy her a nice birthday gift, than that is very generous and kind of you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that either because it is what YOU wanted to do and no one pushed you into it. I think the women also reacted the way they did because they didn't know your gf personally so they were likely being protective of you and did not want to see you being taken advantage of, especially because it is obvious that you are a nice guy. As far as the guy's reaction.. I think its pretty common for males to associate being nice with how much money did it cost. I dont really think alot of guys would spend alot of money on a gift for a girl unless they were pretty serious about them. Just like girls, guys do not want to be taken advantage of either and I think they would want to make sure a girl plans on being around and isn't a "gold digger" before they put themselves out and spend alot on her. This is just what I have seen, I am not saying that all guys think like this. So I am curious.. what was her reaction when you gave her the gift? Are you guys still together? And for what it's worth, like you said you did what you wanted too and gave it to her, and as long as you were comfortable with your decision than that is all that matters in the end.